Sunday, August 24, 2014

Collaboration Appreciation

 
 
 
Collaboration Appreciation
            I would like to express my appreciation to my classmates for inspiring me and supporting me throughout this course.   I really enjoyed reading about the experiences of others and appreciating the similarities and differences that we all have endured.  We all have become professionally richer because communication and collaboration skills are the key to our success.  Dr. Darragh has given us helpful insights into our learning and now we should be great leaders of collaboration teams.   We have formed a great collaboration team amongst ourselves and we have all fulfilled our goal/vision by completing this course.  I wish everyone continued success and I look forward to joining you all on the next adventure!!!!!!!


Sunday, August 10, 2014

What Qualities Make a Great Adjoining Process?

 
 
 
What Qualities Make a Great Adjoining Process?
          A couple of years ago I volunteered to be on the Teachers Retreat committee at my school and I was filled with excitement to be able to contribute to the school as a whole.  The committee consisted of six members and we actually worked well together.  Our goal was to come up with a place to have a teacher’s retreat at a place that most of the teachers would be committed to go.  Our team leader was already selected from the principal and she explained the various roles that needed to be filled by committee members. 
So in the forming stage we talked about what roles we would fill and we already knew each other so there was no need for introductions.  Two of the members created a survey that listed possible retreat locations, possible dates, and a list of activities and this was distributed to all of the teachers.  At every meeting our leader would provide us with a list of duties, goals, results, and what the next plan of action would be which is defined as the agenda (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012).  The place that was chosen for the retreat was Ocean City, Maryland which is a beach town. We were allowed to select a luxury hotel that had balconies with an ocean view for every room, and each teacher was provided with a $50.00 American Express gift card.  We left on a Friday morning and returned on Sunday evening.  There were team building activities, beach games, trivia games, night socials, and shopping outlet trips that were planned.  Our project was an overwhelming success because we had a strong vision, we established mutual respect and we trusted each other.  Great teams value the opinions of team members and display trust and mutual respect (Laureate Education, 2011).  Our committee displayed these great qualities and we grew to be fond of one another.
The adjourning process was a joyous occasion because we were a very effective committee and we were excited about the upcoming retreat.  Our leader had secretly ordered mugs that read “Working Together Is Success”; to be given to all team members.  The adjoining stage signals the end of a project and a time to reflect on the team experience (Abudi, 2010). During the norming (working as a team) and performing (functioning at an elevated level) stages we were highly effective because we finished our assigned tasks on time and we also helped out on other tasks when needed.  During and at the end of the retreat we received many compliments on how well the activities were run.  The committee members were proud of the accomplishments and we all vowed to work together on future projects together.
Upon completing this Masters program I will miss the informative discussions that we have all had and the helpful information and suggestions from our instructor.  We have become a helpful collaboration team and I will always remember this meaningful experience.  I wish everyone continued success in this program and beyond.
 
 
References
Abudi, G. (2010). The five stages of team development: A case study. Retrieved from
Laureate Education (Producer). (2011). Team building strategies [Video file]. Retrieved from
            https://class.waldenu.edu
O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St.
            Martin's.
 
 


Sunday, August 3, 2014

Resolving My Personal Conflicts

 
 
 
 
Resolving My Personal Conflicts
          When two or more people are entangled in a disagreement it can be defined as a conflict (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012).  Conflict is often unavoidable because often people have difficulty seeing eye to eye on various issues.  The conflicts that can be most challenging are the disagreements that we may have with family members because these are the people that you will be stuck with most of your life and there is an emotional bond that exists.  So the task at hand is how do we resolve conflicts in a peaceable manner and leave all parties feeling satisfied.
          The major conflicts that I experience constantly are with my husband who I have been with for many years.  He has the awful habit of taking off his clothes at night and dropping the clothes on the floor when he changes into his night attire.  This really irks me because I feel that it is unsanitary and he does have a clothes hamper that he rarely uses.  I am constantly telling him to pick up his clothes off of the floor and he refuses to do so until he is ready to wash his clothes.  Our next argument is over the television remote and when and where that one can watch television.  I often like to work on my laptop computer on a small dining table in our den and watch television at the same time.  He often complains about me having my computer on the table and he thinks that I should not be able to watch television and use the computer at the same time because he believes that I am monopolizing two devises at the same time.  So he will often come in the room and change the channel on the television and tells me that I am not allowed to do both.  I automatically get in an argumentative and defensive mode because at that point I believe that my rights are being violated.
          When thinking about the ways that I could resolve these pressing conflicts I start pondering about what techniques could be successful.  I could implore the escapist strategy which means to try to avoid all conflicts at any cost (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012).  My husband   often uses the Challenging strategy because he becomes very assertive and feels that his way is the only way.  So we have to find a way to come up with some cooperative strategies which is defined as creating solutions that would appeased both people when a disagreement occurs (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012).   I think my husband and I should use the 3R’s strategies to solve our conflicts which are to be respectful of our feelings, share our thoughts, and respond to the others needs (The Center for Nonviolent Communication, n.d.).  Sometimes I will pick up his clothes off the floor and wash his dirty clothes to avoid conflict.  When I am on the computer and the television is on I will also ask him if he would like to watch something else and he will respond “yes” or “no thanks” so we are moving toward more peaceful solutions.  We are now moving to more productive conflicts which ease tensions on a thriving relationship.   
 
 
References
O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New
          York: Bedford/St.Martin's
The Center for Nonviolent Communication. (n.d.). The center for nonviolent
          communication. Retrieved from http://www.cnvc.org/